What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs?

 If someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult.


Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been the complete opposite. A stage of their life when they should have been carefree was then a stage when they were weighed down.


An Inversion


Ultimately, they would have been forced to act like a parental figure and one or both of their caregivers would have probably acted like children. At a stage of their life when they needed to receive and to express themselves ended up being a stage when they had to give and hide themselves.


Naturally, as they had to be there for someone else or a number of people, it wouldn't have been possible for them to grow and develop. So, while they will look like an adult, it is highly unlikely that they will feel like one.


One Big Act


Still, thanks to what they had to do during their formative years, they are likely to be very good at playing the role of an adult. They will be there for others and they might even work in a helping profession.


Thus, most people are likely to see them as very responsible and as playing their part in life. In fact, it could go oven further than this, with some people describing them as selfless and as a saint.


An Endless Flow


It might not matter what time of the day it is or what they are doing, as they could be available to help others. If they are not available in person, they could be available over the phone.


Due to how they behave, they are going to be used to receiving positive feedback from others. Every now and then, though, they could end up feeling exhausted and wonder what is going on.


A Challenging Time


During this time, not only will they feel totally floored but they can also feel bad for not being able to be there for others. They are then going to be on their back emotionally, if not physically, but they won't be able to truly surrender to what is going on.


There will be the guilt and the shame that they feel and they could also feel as though their very survival is under threat. Consequently, they are not going to allow themselves to fully recharge, and this could cause them to fall down again before long.


A Natural Outcome


Behind the act that they present to the world is likely to be an underdeveloped child, and this child will have gone into hiding a long time ago. Ergo, while many, many years will have passed since they were a child, the child that they once were will now live inside them.


This child, by not having received what it needed, is unlikely to be in a good way. As they typically had to be there for others as a child, this part of them is going to have a lot of unmet needs and be in a lot of pain.





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